I patiently, doggedly attempt to live by the principles I believe in. To be patient when things don't go my way. To be flexible. To be generous. To be kind and forgiving and merciful.
To be humble and sacrificial.
All good things, all good things. I wouldn't even bother with many of them if not for my deep conviction and the background certainty that they are ultimately the only profitable way to live. But sometimes...
I just want to pee by myself.
I just want to finish my show.
I just want to sit down for five minutes.
I just want to eat my dinner in peace.
Is that too much to ask?!
Or how about:
I just want to get on track with the budget.
I just want to get the laundry done.
I just want to not have to cook dinner for once.
I just want to eat without worrying about what.
Familiar? Probably, especially if you're a mom.
I remember back when I first found out I was pregnant. I was elated...and petrified. Like, standing shaking in the shower bawling my eyes out petrified. I was healthy, normal, young enough not to have 'older woman' concerns, old enough to have a stable home and finances and future in place. Midddle-of-the-road on all counts, nothing extreme to be the least concerned about really. But I'm kind of paranoid when it comes to things I want intensely. And I loved this baby intensely and was terrified of the power I felt over his little life. That something I'd do or not do could alter his world forever, even kill him. And there was precious little I could do about it. So I stood there in the shower, shaking with terror and mind racing, looking for the guaranteed rock in the storm of my emotions. "Is it too much to ask, for my baby to live? to grow and be happy and not die before I do?"
Or how about this last week. Sick as a dog, with fever, blinding headaches, nausea and more. Unrelenting symptoms that slowly crippled and halted all my well-laid plans, even my regular life, one by one. Packing my kids off on short notice, all housework of any kind grinding to halt, hours in the ER, even my still-nursing child traumatized by sudden separation. (s'ok, he'll mend) A spinal tap (major ouch), a powerful antibiotic turned new major allergy, a waiting game for results. All while hubby is out of town. Quite the emotional wringer for me. And I prayed through it all, bc my life is not my own, I gave up any say over what happens but still I hope for some things and life and health is top of the list for sure. "Is it too much to ask, for me to live? to regain health and strength to LIVE with my family?"
You know, there are a lot of people for whom the 'Is It Too Much To Ask' question is gut-wrenchingly pitiable.
I just want to eat.
I just want to see my kids.
I just want to not be in pain.
I just want to get up to pee.
I just want to live.
Is even this too much to ask?
There is a verse (Hebrews 4:15) that talks about Jesus and how there isn't anything we experience in our lives that He did not go through in His life and drink the full measure of. Meaning there's nothing I can feel or deal with that He didn't already do in spades.
I questioned that. Jesus was Perfect. Human yes, but perfect, especially when it comes to being of the Mind of God. He and the Father are One, so if anyone wouldn't have a hard time with getting on board with God's plan-whatever-it-may-entail it would be Jesus, right? And any depravations and frustrations would have been known quantities and therefore easier to bear, right? No offense but are You sure You really know what I'm dealing with?
And this verse (Matthew 26:40) came to memory.
Here is the Savior of the World, facing down the draught of the vilest blackest sludgiest filth of all of humanity that He knows will bring Him down to the depths of Hell before He's done and He's surrendered. He's sweat BLOOD there's so much tension, but He's surrendered. Sometimes I think the real battle with anything we're afraid of happens first in our minds, and a lot of popular advice will second that. So, by that reason it stands that the only thing worse than the bloody excruciating torture mockery and death He's about to endure, was the mental battle He just fought to get ready to endure it. The real battle for the souls of men happened quietly in a garden.
And His closest friends, who should've known something was up, fell asleep. Of all things. So natural, so understandable, so forgivable. Yet, it would have been so comforting to know they were standing by in His distress. But no, not even that comfort could be afforded Him by circumstances. "Couldn't you keep watch with me for an hour?" Is it too much to ask for even that?
Did Jesus know the 'is it too much to ask' feeling? Um, yeah, yup, that's convincing enough for me, He did. In spades. And that comforts me. It's always comforting to know My Leader never sends me or asks me to go, where He has not been first Himself and paved the Way. Comforting too, because didn't God take care of Him? In both the most momentous question ("if possible let this cup pass") and the ordinary minuscule ("just stay awake with me for an hour") God cared for Him and His needs. God can do the same with mine. Whether I'm asking for a little more time on earth in His service, or just five minutes of peace to relieve myself uninterrupted, His plan will take care of them all. And He certainly understands how hard it can be.